Cancer sucks, so does my family!

So as some know I was dx with cancer not to long ago. I knew something already was wrong back in October sitting in the ER, feeling like I was dying. The pain was worse than childbirth. But back then they said I was fine, just a cyst. anyways, I've been getting some shit for not telling anyone in my family. Let me give some history here. I have tried to have relationships with members of my family. I have called them when I was in their area and asked to go to lunch. called them just to say hello.  Family members have called me and bitched and moaned about their problems. Not asking how I was doing, then at the end of the conversation said I need to come visit you soon. But never hear from them again. So lets go back 2 years, when I had a brain tumor. I went through hell. During that time my kids could have used a weekend away with some family since I couldn't get my ass out of bed cause I couldnt stand any sunlight. I had migraines something horrible. I was sick as hell. Having black outs. It was pure hell. Not just for me but for my girls. I had 3 people in my family at that time 2 of them who would take me to drs appts, pick my girls from school, etc. They had families of their own, but they took time away from their families because that is what family does! They didnt bitch to me about their problems, they knew mine were greater. I even had a neighbor bring over dinner one night. such a small gesture but it meant a lot! I didnt tell anyone in my family except Daisy about the cancer, why cause she gives a shit! She has ALWAYS cared! When I had my back surgery in the hospital for a month., who was there for my girls DAISY, 18 years old and raising 3 kids. taking them to school, and working at night. you see, so this is why I havent told anyone. They have never cared before, during my back surgery that i was in the hospital for a month, nor during the brain surgery. So why the hell should I tell anyone now. what is the point? I dont want a pity party. What does anyone gain from knowing this information? NOTHING! They have proved in the past that regardless what you are going through, Their problems are far greater than anyone elses. It surprises me to cause My mother was not this way. She was the one making a meal for a neighbor, baking a cake etc. I learned from her what it means to help someone in need.